Get that spark back in your love life

After awhile, sex with your partner can become dull. It's true. It usually is the same thing over and over again. You start, you go for the ride, then you end. There's no variation and you're probably using the same old boring positions. It's fine it happens to all of us. We probably still love the person it's just, well, sex gets boring. This can lead to some bad habits though like breaking up with or cheating on your partner.

I'm going to tell you some not-so-harsh methods of improving your sex life and keeping a healthy relationship. So here are some tips on getting that spark back.


Simply ask your partner- While you two are lying in bed one night deciding whether or not to slip off to sleep or not, try asking a simple question like "Do you want to try something different?" Your partner could be hiding a lot of fantasies from you that they're just too scared or don't exactly know how to tell you. Be the one to approach the topic and make him/her feel more comfortable discussing the topic.


Masturbate- A perfectly healthy and normal method of pleasing yourself. For some men and women masturbation is viewed as a sin, and if that's how you feel then fine. I just say "hey it feels good, where's the sin in that?". The way to approach this is to just simply start pleasing yourself in front of your partner. He/She might find it kinky and discover new ways to pleas you.

Pretend you just met them- Think about how another person might view your partner if they just met them. This might make you want to impress them more. For example you might buy some sexy clothing or joining them activities such as showering or bathing. Think of this as making him/her not even think about cheating on you.

Send emails or text messages- Send him dirty emails or fantasies of yours, he or she will find this very kinky. This will allow you to talk about things that you might other wise feel weird about talking about it face to face as well.

Get an adult movie- No not full blown porn, but one of those sexual positions or kama sutra videos. This will help you discover new positions and ways to stimulate your partner.

Be aggressive- Take the dominance roll, order your partner around, guys especially love when a girl does this.

Try out some "toys"- Adult toys can really help unlock the full stimulation potential in you. They allow things like vibration to occur which is VERY stimulating on the sexual organs. (You can buy toys online if you feel embarrassed when going into a adult toy store, this also allows everything to be discret - Buy Adult Sex Toys - Click Here).

Don't take sex for just being sex- Make sex a display of how much you love each other don't just concentrate on pleasing yourself devote everything to your partner.

Utilize these and your sex life will be kickin' once again!